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A lot of books have been published about the relationship between humans and dogs.

But Chris Blazina鈥檚 new book, 鈥淕ood Dogs & Difficult People: What Dogs Teach Us About Love,鈥� is special in that pantheon. It explains how human-dog attachment strongly influences the attachment between humans.

鈥淚n some ways, the relationships between humans and dogs make for more meaningful relationships between humans,鈥� Blazina, a Sandia Park psychologist, said in a phone interview.

From there the book expands to a broad, sometimes rambling, discussion of the history of attachment and various aspects of how humans learn how to love.

The attachment issue has grown out of Blazina鈥檚 extensive research and from his own personal experiences.

The book鈥檚 prologue opens with a visit Blazina made to what he identified as the 鈥淭omb of the Dogs鈥� on Orkney Island, Scotland.

The Neolithic people on the island discovered a sense of home, but that sense would be incomplete without the presence of dogs, he writes.

The speculation about the tomb promotes two theories.

One theory, Blazina writes, is that these people were fond of canine companionship and honored them in death as they had in life. Another theory is that these ancient people had a totem-based religion and considered canines as a spiritual intermediary.

Blazina said he later learned more about the tomb鈥檚 history 鈥� that over time the remains of 24 entombed dogs had been lost or decomposed. What remained was a single partial skeleton held at the Scottish National Museum.

In 2018 a forensic scientist did a 3D reconstruction of the dog, he writes, and the dog鈥檚 head appears to resemble a collie鈥檚.

鈥淭his book,鈥� Blazina writes, 鈥渋s a type of travelogue through my own life, with pivotal stops along the way as a partner, parent and dog friend.鈥�

He takes the concept of attachment a step further 鈥� to the point where it influences his idea of what it means to bond and to love.

This journey, he writes, must include where it all began for him. That is, his growing up in a large dysfunctional family with its 鈥渕any distorted messages about what it means to love.鈥� Those messages have remained with him.

In the first chapter, Blazina addresses what he believes is 鈥渁 crisis of connection鈥� that exists today.

Twenty years ago most people had at least one best friend, he contends.

Today that has fallen, statistically, to below one, Blazina alleges.

How, he asks rhetorically, does a person have less than one best friend and survive?

Blazina further argues that about 30% of the adult 近距离内射合集 States population lives alone.

鈥淧ersonal freedom and individuality aside, I think we have evolved from Homo sapiens to Homo sapiens Solitarius 鈥� humankind alone,鈥� he writes.

For many people the answer to isolation lies with humans鈥� ancient friendship with the wolfdog, which arrived at campsites 20,000 to 60,000 years ago, according to Blazina. The wolfdog evolved into the dog that we know 鈥� and love 鈥� today.

He tells his own story of 鈥渕ankind alone鈥� through his own friendship with many dogs over years.

The first dog he cited was Scooby, whom Blazina describes as 鈥渢he gentle German shepherd鈥� his family adopted when the author was about 5 years old.

He refers to himself as a lonely boy befriended by the dog. That connection to Scooby radically changed young Blazina鈥檚 life.

Scooby, he said, was the first of many dogs who taught him the importance of connecting that humans he had met could not.

鈥淪o fixed and focused was Scooby鈥檚 gentle gaze in my moments of vulnerability. When he looked toward me, I felt something so new. That something was being loved,鈥� Blazina writes.

He then takes the reader forward about 20 years to when the author is 25 years old and finishing work on a doctorate.

He finds himself standing outside an animal shelter. He had wanted a dog for some time, but the timing was always off. At the shelter he thinks he鈥檚 found the right dog, a calm golden retriever puppy mix. He names her Kelsey.

His home has a dog run. But her first night there with Blazina, Kelsey digs out of the run and starts scratching at the door to the small house in the country.

鈥淪he will never spend a night outside in her young life,鈥� he writes.

鈥淭his is the beginning of 14 years together, a bond that will forever change my life, a lesson in the art of loving I will never forget. I will learn what responsible loving begins to look like even if it cannot be fully enacted with other people.鈥�

Kelsey, Blazina comments, taught him about attachment and loss. Hers was the first significant death that he had experienced.

When Kelsey began to age, Blazina thought she would benefit by having a younger companion. He found Sadie, a black-and-white collie mix, at the Houston, Texas, SPCA.

Blazina marries Lora and they have a son, Harris.

The author recalls a moment when he is holding Harris, who is about 6 weeks old. Harris starts to cry. Sadie, older and grayer, pads over from the other side of the room to see what鈥檚 happening.

鈥淪adie sniffs Harris and licks him on the top of his head. She then settles down by my feet,鈥� Blazina writes of this tender encounter.

After Sadie died, the next two dogs the family brought to their home were Beatrix, a border collie mix, and Marley, a golden retriever.

They got into rows that grew into scary fights.

Divorced, Blazina now lives with two other dogs 鈥� Tex, a border collie, who is on the book鈥檚 front cover, and Dusty, a golden retriever, seen on the back cover on Blazina鈥檚 lap.

It is disappointing that the book contains brief information about the author鈥檚 relationship with Tex and scant information about Dusty.

Blazina has written or co-edited other books on the subject of humans and dogs, among them are 鈥淥ne Unwavering Friend: Heart-Warming Tales of Men and Dogs鈥�; 鈥淢en and Their Dogs: A New Understanding of Man鈥檚 Best Friend鈥�; 鈥淲hen Man Meets Dog 鈥� it leads to a unique friendship; one that can change men鈥檚 lives.鈥�

鈥淎ll of these books are labors of love. Not burdensome for me,鈥� he said.

鈥淭hey have meaning and purpose about how important the bond is.鈥�