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‘We are survivors’: Mom and former fiancee  remember Marine killed in Iraq 22 years ago

Lance Cpl. Aaron Austin joined the Marine Corps weeks after 9/11

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LOVINGTON — Just after midnight on April 26, 2004, Marine Lance Cpl. Aaron Austin recorded a message to his fiancee, Tiffany Hegstad.

“Going on a mission tomorrow,” he said in part of the recording. “I don’t know what’s going to happen. … It’s pretty crazy. So, at least I got to talk to you and tell you I love you.”

About 11 hours later, the 21-year-old machine-gunner was with his platoon in Fallujah, Iraq, when they were attacked from three directions.

U.S. Marine Lance Cpl. Aaron Austin, from Lovington.

In the first 15 minutes, the enemy fired rocket-propelled grenades and thousands of machine gun rounds, injuring more than a dozen Marines. After ensuring they received treatment, Austin rallied the rest of the platoon and rushed to a rooftop defensive position. As he attempted to throw a grenade, Austin was shot multiple times in the chest.

“Undaunted by his injuries and with heroic effort, Lance Corporal Austin threw his grenade, which exploded amidst the enemy, halting their furious attack,” according to his Silver Star citation.

Austin was resuscitated twice before dying while being prepped for surgery, his mother De’on Miller said.

Austin, a member of the 2nd Battalion, 1st Marine Regiment, E Company weapons platoon, was during Operation Iraqi Freedom, according to the Defense Casualty Analysis System. The operation was part of the Global War on Terrorism that began after Sept. 11, 2001, when hijacked planes were flown into the Twin Towers, the Pentagon and a field outside Shanksville, Pennsylvania.

“When I (think about) 9/11, I just think about the loss, not only of Aaron, but everyone else, too,” Hegstad said.

LISTEN: U.S. Marine Lance Cpl. Aaron Austin left this voicemail for his fiancee, Tiffany Hegstad, on April 26, 2004, while he was stationed in Iraq. Austin died in a firefight about 11 hours after leaving the message.

A call to serve

Austin was born July 1, 1982, in Amherst, Texas.

Miller, a former U.S. Army specialist, said Austin “fell in love with the military” when he was young.

“He would dress in my BDUs (battle dress uniform) and boots,” she said.

In 2001, when Austin was a senior at Lovington High School, he briefly joined the U.S. Army’s Delayed Entry Program but would leave weeks later because he did not enjoy it, Miller said. 

A few weeks after 9/11, however, Austin decided to enlist in the Marines.

“When 9/11 happened, he just felt like he was called to do that and to stand up, and that’s what he did,” Hegstad said.

He was sworn in on Oct. 22, 2001. More than a year later, in February 2003, he was shipped off to the Middle East.

During that first deployment, Miller, 71, said she never had the news off, and “it was not an uncommon thing for me to just come home and cry.”

“I was pretty much a wreck when he was gone on that first trip, and it was really hard on me because I was concerned about him,” she said.

In July 2003, after Austin’s tour ended, he went to San Diego where he was stationed. It was there that a friend introduced him to Hegstad.

A portrait of Marine Lance Cpl. Aaron Austin hangs in his mother De'on Miller's dining room in Lovington. Austin was killed in Iraq in 2004.

“She’s like, ‘He’s crazy. He’s loud and he was coming back from his first tour,’” Hegstad, 44, said. “And I was like, ‘OK. I’m going along for the ride.’”

From the moment they met, she said, Austin “was very persistent with me.”

“He was not willing to accept that I wasn’t interested as an answer, and he just tried everything he could,” Hegstad said.

After months of talking “and just seeing the qualities in him and knowing that he would be a good partner in life … I just knew he was the one,” she said.

Hegstad said while she was thrilled about Austin being in the military, when he got his orders to head back to the Middle East in February 2004, “it was scary.”

“And being young as I was, I just didn’t think about the ‘What if?’” she said.

‘I just knew’

Austin and Hegstad spent their last night together in San Diego.

“We talked about our life and what it was going to be like when he got back,” she said. 

Austin shipped out on Feb. 29, 2004. Less than three weeks later, on March 18, he proposed to Hegstad from Kuwait. She accepted.

Over the next several weeks, Hegstad said while she tried to stay positive and busy, she “knew how bad it was” in the Middle East. That month, on March 31, four Blackwater private security contractors were killed in Fallujah, where Austin was.

Hegstad picked up her wedding dress on April 26. Later in the day, she said Miller called and told her, “I don’t have a good feeling.”

“And I said, ‘I don’t either,’” Hegstad said.

About an hour later, around 4 p.m. or 5 p.m., Miller said two Marine casualty assistance calls officers came to her house and told her Austin had been killed.

“My whole world fell apart,” she said.

Tiffany Hegstad, with her 3-year-old daughter, Harper, look through memorabilia of her former fiancee U.S. Marine Lance Cpl. Aaron Austin, who was killed in Iraq in 2004. This is in Austin's mother's home in Lovington on Aug. 21.

As Miller digested the news, Hegstad got a call from Miller’s husband, Greg Miller.

“He said, ‘I don’t know how to tell you this,’ and I just knew,” Hegstad said.

On Dec. 9, 2004, two days before Hegstad was supposed to marry Austin, Miller wrote her a letter. Part of it said: “I cannot replace Aaron, but I will be here for you as long as you should ever need me, in whatever capacity that life and grace both grant us.”

‘It is in pain and loss that we know what love is’

Last month, Hegstad’s husband, Nick Hegstad, drove her six hours from North Texas so she could surprise Miller in Lovington.

After the women embraced, they went to Austin’s old room, where they looked at photos, dog tags he wore when he was killed, and a quilt that included pieces of his uniforms and a copy of his Silver Star citation.

“Even though it didn’t turn out the way that we thought it would, it hadn’t turned out horrible,” Miller said.

“No,” Hegstad said.

“Romans 8:28 says that all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord, and those who are called according to His purposes,” Miller said. “And I will always believe that Aaron was called to his purpose. I might never know what life needed to be saved. I don’t have to know. That’s my trust and my faith.

Tiffany Hegstad, right, the former fiancee of Marine Cpl. Aaron Austin, and De'on Miller, Cpl. Austin's mother, hug in the bedroom of the soldier who was killed in Iraq in 2004. This is in Miller's home in Lovington.

“And Tiffany has a wonderful family and we still love each other today like we loved each other then. In fact, we love each other …”

“More,” Hegstad said before hugging Miller.

“More,” Miller continued, “because we are survivors and it is in pain and loss that we know what love is about.”

Gregory R.C. Hasman is a general assignment reporter and the Road Warrior. He can be reached at ghasman@abqjournal.com or 505-823-3820.