LOCAL COLUMN
OPINION: NM schools are leaving parents out of gender identity conversations
My three children are my pride and joy, one of whom is still at home here in Las Cruces. Like so many other mothers in New Mexico, I used to believe that I could trust the local public school district to do its job in educating my children and everything would be OK.
Unfortunately, I no longer believe that.
Over the past few years, I鈥檝e sat down with other moms 鈥 at kitchen tables, in church, over coffee 鈥 walking them through what I鈥檝e found is actually happening in New Mexico鈥檚 schools.
In classrooms across New Mexico, students are being advanced grade to grade without basic reading and writing skills. Our students are missing a record-breaking amount of days in school, and disruptive and aggressive behavior from their peers is dominating teaching time.
While academic outcomes are some of the lowest in the country, instructional time is being diverted toward ideological priorities. Deeply personal and controversial issues 鈥 like gender identity 鈥 are being handled in ways that exclude parents from the conversation entirely.
State policies allow for social transition to take place at school without parental knowledge, sometimes for children as young as kindergarten. Little kids are forced to share bathrooms and locker rooms with the opposite sex, confusing all of them and exposing them to things that no elementary student should be subjected to. These policies place teachers in the position of navigating sensitive, life-shaping decisions behind closed doors with zero accountability.
Most of the parents I talk with have no idea what their children are being subjected to. New Mexico used to be a fantastic place to grow up. The mountains are within sight, and the land, while dry, is abundant. They call it 鈥淭he Land of Enchantment鈥 for a reason.
Yet as parents are finding out what is taking place in our children鈥檚 schools, they are quickly becoming disenchanted with the detestable policies that our leadership has promoted and worked all too sneakily to enact.
As a leader of the New Mexico Voices Las Cruces chapter through the Independent Women鈥檚 Network, I鈥檝e made it my mission to help women in my community understand the laws and policies shaping our children鈥檚 future, and even our own.
On the issue of gender ideology in particular, I have yet to meet a room full of mothers who genuinely support what is happening. In fact, most are shocked. Many are frustrated. And nearly all of them ask the same question: How did this happen without us knowing?
The answer is uncomfortable, even for me. For far too long, we trusted that those in leadership positions would act in the best interest of our children. We assumed that deeply personal matters 鈥 especially those involving identity, sexuality and family values 鈥 would remain where they belong: in the home. But that is not the case.
Parents are being cut out of conversations they should be leading. Teachers are being pressured to comply by administrators or state officials who have little regard for personal or religious convictions.
Parents deserve public schools that actually serve their children without ideology. Even taxpayers who don鈥檛 send children to public schools deserve transparency and for their hard-earned money to be put to good use.
Children from every race, creed, color, class and ZIP code deserve an education that will actively sharpen their real-life skills, encourage critical thinking and create positive memories that will last a lifetime. These kids should be prepared to be informed citizens and capable adults once they leave our care.
For better or worse, change will not come from the top down. It starts with us. Today, you can join Independent Women by signing our petition to save New Mexico鈥檚 schools. It takes all of us to be the voice for the voiceless.
To all women and parents in New Mexico 鈥 do not look away. It鈥檚 time for us to stand up for our kids, because if not us, who will?
Erica Ramirez is a New Mexico Voices Las Cruces leader and Independent Women鈥檚 Network member.